Vulnerability in relationships, as conceptualized by Brene Brown and supported by extensive research, is the willingness to be seen and known, warts and all, by your partner, without fear of criticism or rejection. According to Brown’s work, vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, and connection in relationships.

Vulnerability is an opportunity to grow as a person and a way to find deep satisfaction in your relationships. Opening up and relinquishing your fears of rejection helps builds trust and honesty with others, fosters empathy, and builds stronger bonds.

Being vulnerable in relationships means choosing to openly disclose your feelings and bravely say “I love you” first. Showing vulnerability in a relationship means expressing emotions, although we are unsure how the other will respond. Being vulnerable means being ready to be exposed to disagreements with others or even to rejection.